Anyway you look at it, dealing with break up pain and a heart break is not going to be simple. A lot of people incorrectly believe that they will be able to manage their heartbreak, only to find out that carrying a torch for someone after a love affair is a lot like grieving, at least if you look at the relationship as having passed on. When it comes to dealing with a broken heart after a break up, it is important to find a way to survive and look past the pain, even when it seems impossible.

People feel misery and fear when going through a break up. Some of the people going through these feelings have no one in the world to turn to, and this is why people suffer so hard from heartbreak in the first place. Dealing with break up pain all by yourself can seem impossible at first, but consider how many people deal with love and loss in their lives and survive to talk about it. You too will be able to get over what feels like a crippling break up, but only if you are willing to deal with heartbreak pain the right way, and the healthy way for that matter.

Why does losing a love cause such considerable pain and so difficult to get over? It is because you feel that you are the only one that has suffered this way and felt this kind of pain. Instead of giving up on the situation it is important that you continue to try and heal. Once you stop concentrating on your broken heart and begin to look at things in a different, more positive, light, you may find yourself moving on and finding someone new, maybe even someone who is a better fit for you.

Here are some ways to help you get through the rougher times:

• Spend time with your friends and let them help you get your mind off your heartbreak.
• Don't dwell on the bad feelings, but focus on the good parts of your life in order to promote healing.
• To begin feeling good about yourself again, treat yourself to a day at the spa or go for a walk in a new place. This will help you get over the break up much sooner.

Your friends will probably realize that you're going through something serious, and they will more than likely dedicate themselves to trying to help you through it. Spending time with your friends and the people that care about you can be extremely helpful during this time so don't avoid them! Everyone has gone through a break up at one time in their life so they can relate and empathize with your broken heart. Instead of becoming depressed or overwhelmed by your broken heart and allowing yourself to get stressed out rather then healing you should enjoy begin to enjoy yourself and mend your heart break.

To start a new habit only takes 3 weeks and bad ones can also be broken in 3 weeks. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong - STOP!!! Although it's quite natural to feel hurt for a long time after a losing someone we love, we have to get up and begin to live again. So get out of those ugly sweatpants and put away the junk food, it's time to start some new habits and try something new to mend your broken heart!

First of all we need to stop some of the bad habits we are currently doing. Are you constantly checking Facebook or Twitter to see what is going on in your ex's life? With the friends you still share, are you still bringing him up and asking about them? When our hearts are broken we want our ex to feel the same way, we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. Well, if you want to heal you have to make a conscious effort to break these habits. So, pinch yourself whenever you feel the need to bring up your ex or go online to check up on them. Not lightly but hard! You can to stop these bad habits by making yourself aware of them.

With our new self inflected injuries on our arms, we will begin some new habits to divert ourselves from the ones we are trying to stop. In order to feel good about ourselves again so our first new habit will be to complement ourselves. This may feel strange at first but you need to write down 10 really good things about yourself. Here are some examples to help get you going:

10 things I like about me:

1. I've very good at…
2. My … really kicks butt!
3. I'm also very…
4. One of my best skills is/are…
5. I'm really good at…
6. I have great…
7. I really love my…
8. My … is/are my best feature.
9. I'm very…
10. I really look good in…

You are now going to begin everyday by looking in the mirror and repeat these 10 thing like you mean it! No squinting up your face either! The more you say it the more you'll begin to believe it and begin to like yourself again.

Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Joining something will help you get your self confidence back and met new people, and you can learn a new skill along the way. These people will get to know the "real you", not the "you" that you were with your ex.

Trying something new and beginning new habits will give you something else to concentrate on beside what is going on with your ex. Try these 2 things for 3 weeks and see how you begin to feel. Are you thinking about your ex less often? Are you beginning to feel more confident? Healing our broken heart takes time and we are just starting to retrain how we feel about ourselves.